Out of My Head, Into My Heart

This week, I had to get out of my own head.

You ever find yourself overthinking, replaying moments, predicting outcomes, or trying to mentally outmaneuver your feelings? That was me. And honestly, it was exhausting. I found myself trying to figure everything out and outwork the pressure I felt instead of simply giving myself permission to feel what I was feeling.

Sometimes, healing isn’t about doing more. It’s about allowing more. Allowing the tears to fall, the truth to rise, and the weight to lift.

In all transparency, I am still healing from a moment I had within myself back in 2020. A moment where I felt completely defeated. A moment where I thought I had let everyone down simply because I hit pause.

And not just a quick pause, but a full stop. FOR ALMOST 3 YEARS YALL! This was a time where I had to sit with the weight of everything I was carrying and admit to myself that I couldn’t keep pushing at the same pace. I had to choose stillness. I had to choose me. But in doing that, I battled guilt. I questioned my worth. I wondered if stepping back meant I was weak, or worse, that I was failing.

What I didn’t realize then was that the pause wasn’t a sign of weakness. It was a cry for alignment. It was my soul craving for space to breathe. And even now, years later, I find myself peeling back the layers of that season, still healing, still forgiving myself, still learning that it’s okay to stop and tend to the broken places.

So I gave myself space. Space to feel. Space to cry. Space to laugh without needing a reason. Space to not have the answers. And what I found in that space was a softness I didn’t realize I was missing.

I was reminded that feeling is not weakness, but the most courageous thing we can do. To feel deeply is to live fully. And as someone who’s constantly holding space for others, I had to remember to hold that space for myself, too.

If you’ve been in your head lately, trying to think your way through the hard stuff, this is your gentle reminder:

It’s okay to pause. It’s okay to feel.

The pause was powerful. The pause was sacred. You don’t have to be strong every second. You just have to be honest with yourself.

Let this be your reminder to breathe. Your reminder to lean in. Your reminder to stop running from your emotions and let them show you what needs tending.

Out of your head. Into your heart. That’s where the healing starts.

With Grace,
Destiny